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Zine by Gary Schubach, Ed.D., A.C.S. |
March, 2004
1. Article of the Month - 43% of American Women are Sexually
Dysfunctional? Hype or Reality?
2. Question of the Month - Dr. John Perry's Response to a Question
About Hysterectomy
3 Product of the Month - Very Private Products
4. Video
Review of the Month - Michael Ninn's
"Perfect"
by
Jacqueline Brandwynne
(creator of the Very Private® line of products)
A recent study published in the Journal of the American Medical Association asserts that 43% of American women have experienced some sort of sexual dysfunction during any given 12 month period. As a result, female sexuality has become another mass media debate. What does this statistic really mean? With all this media exposure, many women are asking themselves the question, "Is there something wrong with me?"
In medical terminology “sexual dysfunction” actually describes seven specific sexual problems: lack of sexual desire; difficulties getting aroused; inability to achieve orgasm; anxiety about sexual performance; climaxing too quickly; not finding sex pleasurable; and experiencing pain during sexuality. However, most medical professionals agree that these conditions can only be diagnosed as sexual dysfunction if the problem is ongoing for at least two months in a given year and causes the individual true distress. In other words, if a woman occasionally experiences any one of these conditions, she is certainly not sexually dysfunctional.
Many conditions cause temporary changes in sexual behavior for which no pills or potions to stimulate sexuality are indicated. Being physically or emotionally exhausted during a particularly stressful life period often results in reducing a person's sexual desire. For example, a first time mom, who is learning to cope and take care of a new baby without much sleep, may simply be too exhausted to be sexually available. Statistics show that most women have reduced sexual activity for at least the first three months after the birth of a baby. Thereafter, sexual activity increases gradually as these stressors are abated and her hormone levels normalize.
Many working women are under constant stress trying to balance job, family, social obligations and/or volunteer work. It is quite understandable that they feel too stretched, at times, to engage in sexual engagement.
Women in menopause have reduced estrogen levels that may impact libido significantly. Estrogen, or the lack thereof, also controls the moisture levels in a woman's body to a large degree - less estrogen means less moisture. Consequently, menopausal women often suffer from vaginal dryness that can make intimacy less comfortable, even painful. The natural tendency is to withdraw, especially if the woman doesn't know how easily this problem can be cured by substituting her own lack of moisture with a good intimate moisturizer that can feel completely natural and eliminate the dryness problem instantly. Does that mean that any of these women are dysfunctional? Hardly!
Also important is the fact that women's desire and sexuality is often directly connected to the quality of the relationship in general. Women's sexuality tends to bloom in an atmosphere of trust and intimacy. If partners are experiencing difficulties, women are more likely to have problems with being sexually open and vulnerable. Partnership stress dampens a woman's desire and makes arousal and orgasm difficult to achieve. However, this does not make her necessarily dysfunctional. When relationship problems are unresolved, they may lead to extended periods of sexual withdrawal or even abstinence and even further strain the relationship. Often these problems come down to poor communication between couples. For some reason, the couple cannot talk freely to each other about their sexual desires. They don’t admit to each other what they want, what makes them happy, and what gives them the greatest sexual satisfaction. To develop a wonderful and exciting sexual life requires honesty, caring communication and revealing precise details.
Not achieving vaginal orgasm does not mean a woman is dysfunctional. Only about 30% of all women have vaginal orgasms, others reach orgasm by oral or manual stimulation. Many men think they don't have enough staying power or are not well enough equipped. A woman can be satisfied in many wonderful ways, penetration is just one phase in the wonderful realm of intimacy. Penetration should only occur when both partners absolutely cannot stand it any longer. Women take about ten to fifteen minutes till they’re open and ready. Men, generally, reach that point in about two minutes. So generous foreplay is very important to women. Some women experience orgasm during this phase and are deeply satisfied even if actual intercourse is limited in duration. Great sex is about learning about giving and receiving pleasure. And pleasure is different for every human being and caused by different triggers.
The exploration of female sexuality was literally ignited by a little pill called Viagra, the revolutionary treatment for male sexual dysfunction. Its success for millions of men, not to mention its commercial success, started many investigations into female sexual function. In turn, sexual treatment centers opened everywhere and a myriad of sex enhancing products hit the market. Few delivered what they promised - to cure sexual dysfunction. Many of these remedies, such as male hormones to stimulate sexual desire in women, may prove to be potentially dangerous and their long-term effect is not known. After years of promoting HRT (Hormone Replacement Therapy) to millions of women, the US health authorities have recently concluded that the serious health risks of taking HRT outweigh the benefits and are now discouraging women to do so. The positive result of exposing sexual dysfunction in the media is that it encouraged women who needed help to ask for it.
Sexuality is a complex and deeply personal experience. Each of us has different sexual expectations. I am concerned about the negative influence these sexual dysfunction stories have on women. I do not see this as a national epidemic and I fear many women may feel pressured by them to feel sexually inadequate. They may even rush out to buy a new magic potion to become sexually perfect. The headlines are misleading and there is no panacea that comes in bottles. The key to sexual happiness lies within ourselves and we have a pretty good sense if the problem is connected to our head, our heart, or our relationship or if, in fact, there may be a physical dysfunction that requires medical attention. If we can resolve the underlying issue that may impinge sexuality in our own lives, these sensational female dysfunction statistics will shrink fast while our own sexual happiness may rise to unknown heights.
In this issue, I am pleased to reprint a letter to Dr. John D. Perry, one of the world's leading authorities on the G-Spot, in which he shares his opinion in his answer on some of the issues that can be involved with hysterectomies and the G-Spot.
A website visitor asked: "I recently had a radical hysterectomy and can no longer find my G-spot. My doctor says there is no such thing but I surely know that he is wrong. I have been searching the internet to find help and finally I started getting somewhere today."
It is not unusual for radical hysterectomy to change one's sexual sensitivity in the vagina, especially if it was "vaginal (entrance)" surgery and the doctor has no awareness of the G-Spot which is now [for the past three years] medically known as the "human female prostate".
In fact, when The G Spot was first published, many doctors immediately latched onto the obvious explanation for a long-standing surgical anomaly -- does hysterectomy affect sexual response? It was quickly apparent that for women whose sexual response was limited to the clitoral (pudendal) nerve pathway -- the "only" one described by M & J and true of a modest majority of western women -- would NOT be affected. But for the sizeable minority who also (or only) used the G-Spot (pelvic) nerve pathway the effects could be devastating.
We are rapidly approaching the point where the information has been well known for a long time (25+ years) and very soon, I predict, someone is going to win a multi-million dollar damage suit against a surgeon who isn't up to date on wiring and plumbing. When that happens, we will begin to see much more rapid recognition from the medical/surgical establishment. It may first come from their malpractice insurance companies, who have the most to lose!
In fact, the first lawsuits don't even have to "win" in order to attract the attention of the insurance companies -- they are in the business of assessing risk, and this risk is obvious. Please inform me if you know of any victims of medical ignorance or interested lawyers."
[More information on the human female prostate and Dr. Zaviacic's research can be found on Dr. Perry's website, DrGSpot.net and DoctorG.com.]
These include:
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- Eliminates vaginal dryness instantly.
- So natural, feels like a woman's own moisture, really protects delicate vaginal tissue.
- FDA tested for safety.
- Gynecologist and dermatologist recommended.
- Never sticky or runny, leaves no residue.
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- Physician tested and recommended.
- PH balanced and hypoallergenic.
- Extra mild for sensitive skin.
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- An advanced, systemic hand & body moisturizer, for dry, sensitive skin.
- Penetrates instantly.
- Rejuvenates skin to feel soft, smooth, and silky again.
This Month Only
DoctorG.com is offering the Very Private pH Balanced Body Wash, which normally sells for $13.50 at a special price of $9.95.
We are also offering all three Very Private products, normally $35.95, for $29.95.
Directed by Michael Ninn
Michael Ninn’s Perfect
gives us all of the things we have grown to love his sex films for
and then a whole lot more. Ninn is the leading sexual
cinematographer of our time and again he dazzles us with a phantasmagoria
of captivating sexual imagery. The use of multiple cameras and
the quick fades from one angle to another and one scene to another
keeps our attention always fresh and alive through sexual scenes that
often exceed twenty minutes in length. His close-ups are very
effective and makes us feel like we are inches away from the action.
The actresses often make eye contact with the camera again giving
the sense that we are there in the scene. Perfect has
a mesmerizing dream like quality which gives his film an almost hallucinogenic
character. The stunningly beautiful blond actresses Ninn
is famous for are there in abundance and his lead, Jodie Moore, is
indeed perfect. But this new video exceeds our expectations
of even a Ninn film. In addition to Jodie Moore
there are more than a dozen other beautiful female stars in Perfect.
The video is two hours and fifteen minutes in length with 80% or more
of it made up of sexual action scenes. Perfect
begins to approach the quality of a regular full feature movie.
Ninn experiments with a strong story line which is maintained consistently
through the film. There is even character development
for the visually appealing male lead, Nick Manning. Although
the resolution of the science fiction plot gives us some emotional
satisfaction by the end of the video, it detracts from the sexual
fireworks by engaging our minds rather than the other parts of us.
My favorite scene comes right at the end when Nick and Jodie make
love in the surf. Jodie rides in on a white horse and they walk
hand in hand off the beach together. Perfect
is among Ninn’s best work to date and we can only look forward
to even greater achievements in the future.
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